Free Book Friday Giveaways for Adoptees, Birth Parents, Adoptive Parents , October 10, 2014

  It's time for our 2nd Friday Adoption Book Giveaways from Jody's Book Bag. We had a nice response for the 1st giveaway and still awaiting for a couple of the winners to contact me and send me their full name, address and zipcode-  Email me at : jodymoreen ( use the @ sign) gmail.com  Everyone who posted a comment for our 1st giveaway won and were awarded a book- because it was our 1st Giveaway and also because I owned 3 copies of the Book Three Names of Me which was requested by 3 persons.  So Congratulations to the winners and I hope these books encourage you and your families!
   If anyone has any new/like new books they would like to donate to this giveaway let me know- they are welcome and will bless someone else to read them. Please let others adult adoptees, birth parents and adoptive parents or others touched by adoption know about this website and also the Friday Adoption Book Giveaway. I also want to share that I have another website Blog- Adoptees Anchored in Christ that shares faith stories of adult adoptees that give testimony to God's grace, hope and healing in their adoption journeys. http://adopteesanchoredinjesus.blogspot.com/
If you read any posts or stories on either of my sites, appreciate your leaving comments. I am available for phone mentoring for a reasonable fee ( not eligible for insurance reimbursement ) and I am knowledgeable on various adoption topics and issues. Feel free to inquire.  For Adult Adoptee women I have a private Facebook called:
Adoptees Anchor/Kindred Spirits so its open to adopted women and one must have a Facebook page to join. For anyone interested, send me an e-mail ( e-mail address above ).


To participate in the drawing- You must sign up to Follow this Blog, then just post a brief comment after this posting and include your name and how you are touched by adoption and the book you would most life if your name is picked as a winner in the drawings. If you don't see your Comment posted right away- don't worry- I have to approve them- so it will show up very soon! SHARE about this site and the Free Book Friday Giveaways for those touched by Adoption- thanks!
Hope you will participate! And good luck!  Just sharing the gifts I have been given- Blessed to be a Blessing!  Jody

1, Adoption Is For Always-  Picture story book for Children- NEW- paperback

2. Chicken Soup For The Adopted Soul-  Inspirational short stories from all sides of adoption.

3. Gathering The Missing Pieces of An Adopted Life- Christian perspective written by adoptee Kay Moore- She shares her own adoption story and reunion with her birth family. Then she writes on topics of adoption and at the end of each chapter she shares tips for adoptees, birth parents and adoptive parents on the topic of that chapter.

4. Puppy Love- is a cute mini book with dustcover and a cute ribbon book mark with charm.

Adoptees' Attachment Issues & God's Redeeming Love & Restoration

 

As a psychology student back in my college days, I learned that early successful attachment and bonding in an infant's life sets in motion the emotional groundwork for security, safety, and the ability to regulate ones emotions even when the mother figure is not present. The ongoing and repetitive cycle of the baby having a need and the mother or caregiver lovingly and attentively attending to that need results in the baby's growing ability to learn TRUST.  If needs are not met in a timely fashion, the baby may feel unheard, unworthy and may learn that verbalizing their need through crying does not get results. So if there are way too many of these cycles where the baby expresses a need and feels ignored or not comforted and not acknowledged, or put off for long periods- the infant's emotions can shut down and they may learn to mistrust others. ( Deep down inside there may be a sadness that turns to anger that can then move into depression ) The infant may stop expressing their needs and either represses them ( they get buried ) or is hoping and still expecting that others might mind read. ( faulty thinking ) They may tend to learn helplessness and develop a victims mentality. Some may become very clingy or overly dependent on others in their lives, or they may go to the other extreme- they may push others away emotionally- distance themselves as a kind of protective stance, so as to not get hurt again. They may become fiercely independent trusting only themselves. This also may lead to their being controlling in relationships and always insistent on their own way    ( The sad reality of this relational pattern is that love is then walled out as well as healthy intimacy )  As adoptees, those orphaned or fostered some of us may have been negatively impacted by these early circumstances beyond our control. And some of us may have had more difficult beginnings or prolonged times of neglect or faulty attachment and bonding. Because of this we may carry these tendencies and mindsets into our adult lives and relationships which may hurt others and ourselves. May we have the courage to address these issues, acknowledge them, and yield them to God for His redeeming work.

Prayer:
Lord Jesus, Our Redeemer, Awaken us today to the realities that may be present in our lives, that we may not have been aware of or possibly denied. We were so young and vulnerable as infants and what happened to us was truly beyond our control. We are grateful to know that you do not judge us and instead have compassion for us. Gently open our eyes to the truth and help us to come out of denial so that we may grieve the past losses and recognize your love and grace to bring us to healing and wholeness. May we encourage one another in community as we heal and grow and change to reflect your loving image. We know that we can trust you fully and can invest our love in you- knowing that you always respond, listen and care. As we spend more time  in your sweet presence-drawing close to you as we receive your love, may we grow more and more healthy emotionally. As we securely attach to you- we can heal and grow healthier relationships with others.  Gentle Shepherd, guide us in our healing journeys and restore us we pray. Lead us beside still waters and paths of righteousness for our ultimate good and your glory, Amen.  ( Copyright Jody Moreen 2014- Permission needed to reprint in any media format- online or print ) jodymoreen ( use the @ sign)gmail.com

Top Ten "Adoptee" Quotes by Anne Shirley, Literary Adoptee of Green Gables

ANNE OF GREEN GABLES QUOTES

Some of my favorite quotes relating to "adoption" come from the fictional writing of Lucy Maud Montgomery in her adoptee character Anne of Green Gables. If you never read this book as a child, PLEASE take time this summer to read it- you'll be in for a real treat! Anne Shirley articulates well the thoughts, feelings and emotional world of the orphan, adoptee. The struggles, pain, challenges, loneliness, abandonment, dreams. BUT she does not stay there- her character is brimming with wonderful hope and promise for life and tomorrows! Her passion for life and God overflow through her character. Some of Anne Shirley's quotes

"Isn't it splendid to think of all the things there are to find out about? It just makes me feel glad to be alive--it's such an interesting world. It wouldn't be half so interesting if we know all about everything, would it? There'd be no scope for imagination then, would there?" "I'm not a bit changed--not really. I'm only just pruned down and branched out. The real ME--back here--is just the same." "What a splendid day!... I pity people who aren't born yet for missing it. They may have good days, of course, but they can never have this one." – “Five minutes ago I was so miserable I was wishing I’d never been born and now I wouldn’t change places with an angel” “Dear me, there is nothing but meetings and partings in the world” “ I suppose you are used to sleeping in spare rooms. But just imagine what you would feel like if you were a little orphan girl who had never had such an honor.” “It’s lovely to be going home and know its home… I love Green Gables already, and I never loved any place before. No place ever seemed like home.” “Gracious heavenly Father… Please let me stay at Green Gables; and please let me be good-looking when I grow up.” “This island is the bloomiest place. I just love it here already, and I’m so glad I’m going to live here.” “Oh, but it’s good to be alive and to be going home… I’ve had a splendid time- it marks an epoch in my life. But the best of all was the coming home.” “Kindred Spirits are not so scarce as I used to think. Its splendid to find out there are so many of them in the world.” ENJOY this literary treat this summer- and share your favorite quotes of Anne Shirley- Anne of Green Gables is the first book but there is a whole series and movies as well!! How I wish I could meet Lucy Maud Montgomery and thank her for touching us with her beautiful gift of writing!

Jody, a fellow adoptee ift of writing!